mine is actually just shitty...
my mom got the call that he was in an accident (riding in a pickup bed) and was in surgery (we found out later, they lie on the phone so you don't wreck yourself on the way over)
mom calls me... your brother is in the hospital... meet me there..
and since I was about 20 minutes closer, I beat her there..
the nurses after some coaxing tell me he died at the scene (massive head trauma)
they didn't want to tell me shit since I was only 17 at the time
finally Mom shows up..
she says to me.. "where is he.. still in surgery?"
I look at her... the nurses (cunts) walk away... they won't tell her shit....
mom starts panicking.... looks back to me... "tell me where he's at!!!"
me: "he didn't make it mom... " she looks confused... "he died at the scene"..
mom literally hits the ground with a thud.. sobbing...
it was the saddest thing I've ever seen...
the movie La Bamba did a good job re creating that
https://youtu.be/4fREU5a6B4Q (about 1:50 .. I cry every time )
Mom and Tom were VERY close, she was pregnant at 15 with him, so they literally grew up together...
it broke her beyond repair.. she still is messed up over it.
they wanted me to "Identify the body" I said fuckyou! .. not happening
mom finally composed herself enough to do it... and that wrecked her again...
I had to handle all the funeral arrangements.. she was unable to talk for a long time
had to take Valium to cope.. and that made her a zombie
Tom died on September 5th 1987
the funeral was September 8th 1987 (mom's 37th Birthday)
we tried to postpone, but she wouldn't let us
on a lighter note..
I have learned that death brings out the worst in MOST people
but my uncle (Mom's big brother) stepped up big time
basically moved in for a couple weeks, helped with everything he REALLY stood tall
sometimes it brings out the absolute best too!